DEAR ABBY: My hus band's dad, "Adam," is very mellow and can talk to any one. His mom, "Eve," is friendly, but a little more reserved. Early in their marriage, Adam was a drinker, and my mother in law has never for given him for the way he treated her during that time. She has always treated him disrespectfully, but as they get older, it's becoming worse. She has hit Adam when we had people over because he didn't do what she told him to do. I told her to stop, and my husband told her she embar rassed him, but Eve forgets or doesn't care and continues to do it. She talks down to him constantly. If that's how she acts when people are around, I hate to think what happens behind closed doors. When she hits him, Adam sits there expressionless and doesn't react. He's not the man he once was, and he is adored by many people. What can we do to help my FIL and make her stop doing this in front of her grandkids and company? Eve claims to be a Christian, but isn't acting like one. - FRUSTRATED IN MICHIGAN DEAR FRUSTRATED: Your father in law may have had a drinking problem years ago, but he has a different problem now. He is a victim of verbal and physical abuse. He may have tolerated it all these years out of guilt for what he put his wife through when he was drinking. He may also have become so beaten down that he can no longer protect himself. He does need help. With your and his son's encourage ment, he can receive it because there are programs available for male victims of domestic violence. Stop Abuse for Everyone (SAFE) is an organization that helps abused individuals of all ages, genders, races and sexual ori entations. The website is stopabuseforeveryone.org. DEAR ABBY: I met a nice friend. He's a widower whose wife has been gone for three years. My husband died 10 years ago. He makes me laugh, some thing I haven't done in a while. I really like this guy, but he is still grieving. Some days he's good, but others he's a mess. I want us to be in a rela tionship, and I think he could be "the one." We've only been courting for a month, but he has been pursuing me for a year. Should I give it more time, or should I move on with my life? I haven't been intimate with him, but he still makes me feel like a woman, which is something I've missed. - THINKING IT'S HIM IN MARYLAND DEAR THINKING: As you know, the process of grieving isn't a straight line. When a loved one dies, the survivors have good periods and ones that are less so. You are fur ther along in this grieving process than your friend because his loss is more recent. If a relationship (or more) is what you want, allow him more time to work through his feelings. However, if the bad spells don't become less frequent, suggest he talk with his doctor about joining a grief support group in which he can safely vent his feelings.
Ambrose Bierce defined childhood as: "The period of human life intermediate between the idiocy of infancy and the folly of youth - two removes from the sin of manhood and three from the remorse of age." In bridge, children do not give extra value to intermediates - the nines and 10s. But an adult knows they can be extremely valuable. Take, for example, J 5 4 oppo site either A 3 2 or A 10 9. In the former case, you have some 1.7 percent chance for two tricks. But with those intermediates, your odds rise to 76 percent. Always upgrade for intermediates, espe cially in long suits. In today's deal, South has been dealt one valuable interme diate. Which card is it, and how did declarer use it to improve his chances in five clubs after West led a diamond? Following North's game invi tational limit raise, South ought to have bid three diamonds, aim ing for three no trump, but that would have pinpointed the lethal heart lead. With two heart losers, it looked like South needed the spade finesse to work, but the spade nine improved his chances. After winning with the dia mond ace, declarer drew the missing trump, cashed the dia mond king and exited with a heart. The defenders took two heart tricks ending with West. He returned the spade four. However, declarer played low from the board. Here, South was home, but even if East could have put in the spade 10, declarer would have won with his ace and finessed dummy's spade jack. Declarer would have succeeded if West had either the spade queen or the spade 10.
Take A Boost From Good Intermediates
Fill in the grid so that every row, every column and every 3x3 box contains the digits 1 through 9. There's no math involved. The grid has numbers, but there is nothing to add or sub- tract. The level of difficulty is printed above the puzzle. Difficulty varies day to day.
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Explore your options, find your passion and discover your talents and attributes. Turn something you love to do into a moneymaking ven ture. Think innovatively to trans form your life. Put your focus on happiness, love, health and being the best you can be. ARIES (March 21 April 19) - Get involved in something you care about, and it will lead to a new beginning. Be the pioneer that you long to be, and delve into something that excites you. Indulge in an inspiring adventure. TAURUS (April 20 May 20) - Make sure you have your facts or instructions in order before you proceed. A physical or health issue will prevail if you don't take steps to resolve the problem swiftly. GEMINI (May 21 June 20) - Listen carefully, stick to the truth and don't take a risk that will jeop ardize your reputation. Look at the possibilities, and put paperwork that will help you achieve your goal in place. CANCER (June 21 July 22) - Leave nothing to chance. Develop your plans carefully. Exaggeration will backfire when someone questions what you are doing. Moderation and patience will help you work your way to concrete results. LEO (July 23 Aug. 22) - Work alongside people who share your beliefs and concerns. Stick to a real istic plan that allows you to show off your intelligence and ability to get things done on time and within budget. VIRGO (Aug. 23 Sept. 22) - Keep your goal in mind when asked to take on additional responsibilities. Emotional tactics will put you in an awkward position. Weigh the pros and cons, and don't be afraid to say no. LIBRA (Sept. 23 Oct. 23) - View a problem from every angle. To make the most of a situation and feel good about your contribution, it's best to make suggestions instead of offering your time or money. SCORPIO (Oct. 24 Nov. 22) - Hang on to your cash. Don't get involved in a joint venture or invest in someone's plan. Make a change that is within budget and that gives you a new lease on life. Put your health first. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 23 Dec. 21) - You'll have plenty of opportuni ties to bring about change. Focus on valuable partnerships. Engage in pastimes that are exciting, adven turous and push you to be and do your best. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22 Jan. 19) -Say less and do more. If you are too accommodating, someone will take advantage of you. Put more emphasis on what will ease stress, make you happy and encourage a positive outcome. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 Feb. 19) - Spend time with loved ones, fix up your space or aggressively pursue something you enjoy doing. Something good will transpire. Don't take a risk with your health or cash. PISCES (Feb. 20 March 20) - Don't take on anything or anyone you can't handle. Be wary of physical or financial dealings that can put you in a difficult position. Rely on what you know you can do, and don't make empty promises.
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The 14th session of the Kosciusko County Leadership Academy was held at Winona Lake Grace Brethren Church, where academy members heard from two local members of the ministry. Scott Miles, pastor of Community Grace Brethren Church, discussed the history of the church in Kosciusko County. He pro vided an overview of the success of Winona Lake as the world's largest Bible camp conference center in the early 1900s. Dennis Wilson, pastor of Warsaw Community Church, shared his thoughts on dealing with "the perception of the church by residents of Kosciusko County."
50 Years Ago
Wawasee High School's Phi Tau Alpha Chapter of Future Teachers of America walked off with top honors at the Indiana State FTA Convention held at Arlington High School. The convention was attended by nine FTA members and their sponsor, Terry Iden. Connie Plank was runner up for the office of State FTA President. She gave a speech before the convention audience of more than 1,000 people.
75 Years Ago
The Warsaw armory bleachers, with four hundred additional chairs, was filled to capacity as the famous WOWO Hoosier Hop radio cast made its initial appear ance in a two hour program sponsored by the local chap ter of the Lambda Chi Omega sorority. Such stars of the air waves as the Oregon Rangers, Blackhawk Valley Boys, Howard Ropa, and the Harmony Twins were received. Funds netted from the event will bolster the sorority's gift chest which sponsors many philanthrop ic events each year.
100 Years Ago
Before starting spring pigs on summer feed, the entire lot should be treated for worms unless the owner is certain the premises are clear. Santonin of American wormseed oil treatments are good. Hogs should have a sanitary cement of frame wallow. Into the water should be put some crude oil or a dip to destroy lice, keep the skin in good condition and promote gains. Wherever pigs are given a full feed of grain, the self feeder should be used to save labor.
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